{"id":14176,"date":"2019-05-06T13:17:19","date_gmt":"2019-05-06T05:17:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/varsity.com.cuhk.edu.hk\/?p=14176"},"modified":"2021-10-15T12:12:44","modified_gmt":"2021-10-15T04:12:44","slug":"love-is-the-answer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/varsity.com.cuhk.edu.hk\/index.php\/2019\/05\/love-is-the-answer\/","title":{"rendered":"Love is the Answer"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Stop texting! Let\u2019s chat face to face!<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Varsity reporters were astonished after\nfirst learning about a chat group with nearly 800 parents as members, who are\nall mainland parents with children studying at the Chinese University of Hong\nKong. Out of curiosity, reporters decided to explore this issue and write a\nstory about it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At first, Varsity reporters could not help\nthinking the chat group as a subject of ridicule, and thought such kind of chat\ngroup should not even exist. University students are already young adults after\nall. But it is very wrong for journalists to make a judgment before conducting\nresearch and interviews. Indeed we were wrong. After finishing writing the\nstory, reporters are now touched by these parents\u2019 overwhelming love, care and\nsympathies for their children who seem to have failed to communicate well with\ntheir parents. These parents do not mean to conduct long-distance monitoring of\ntheir children. They simply want to know what their children are doing and what\nkind of school life they are having in Hong Kong \u2013 a city where mainland\nparents find very different from any Mainland cities.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The story is like a wake-up call for Varsity\nreporters who are involved in the reporting duty. Reporters begin to think\nabout their own relationship with their parents and realise they might have\nneglected their parents\u2019 concern and care after leaving home to study in Hong\nKong. Young adults often feel annoyed when responding to parents\u2019 questions\nabout their school life. Parents often complain that they have not received\nphone calls from their children for days. Mainland parents in the chat group\nactually know very well that their children feel annoyed and they want to be\nfree. This is why the parents\u2019 chat groups come to its existence. Mainland\nparents try to share information about their children\u2019s school life among\nthemselves and comfort each other instead of \u201cbothering\u201d their children.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Parents always treat their children with patience\nand care whenever children ask countless questions. Why parents would feel bad\nabout asking their adolescent children questions? Is it because young adults\nsound impatient when responding to their parents\u2019 questions? Is it because\nyoung adults always rush to hang up when speaking to parents on phones? Or is\nit because most people only care about playing mobile phones even when having\nfamily gatherings?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Perhaps it is time for both parents and their adolescent children to resume face-to-face conversation so that they can learn more about what each other are doing even they are living apart. Instead of texting in chat groups with other parents, both parents and children should make efforts to improve communication. If only university students can understand how much their parents care and worry about them and if only parents can understand their children are young adults now and it is time to let them be on their own to explore the world, their relationship will surely be strengthened based on trust. Love is the answer for their communication problem. Perhaps it is time for us all to put down our mobile phones and enjoy face-to-face chats with our loved ones. Love is the answer for all having communication problem.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Edited by Fangdong Bai<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

After inquiring about parent chat groups, Varsity reporters change their stereotype. It\u2019s time to reconsider the relationship between children and parents.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":14182,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1213,1805],"tags":[1260,1264],"class_list":["post-14176","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-insight","category-issue-152","tag-chat-groups","tag-parent-child-communication"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/varsity.com.cuhk.edu.hk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14176","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/varsity.com.cuhk.edu.hk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/varsity.com.cuhk.edu.hk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/varsity.com.cuhk.edu.hk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/varsity.com.cuhk.edu.hk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=14176"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/varsity.com.cuhk.edu.hk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14176\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":14252,"href":"https:\/\/varsity.com.cuhk.edu.hk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/14176\/revisions\/14252"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/varsity.com.cuhk.edu.hk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/14182"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/varsity.com.cuhk.edu.hk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=14176"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/varsity.com.cuhk.edu.hk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=14176"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/varsity.com.cuhk.edu.hk\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=14176"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}